⋆Frequently Asked Questions⋆

In our ever changing fast paced world that is obsessed with productivity and consumerism, there has been a movement towards making therapy “more accessible” by removing the human element, or making it so therapy is a quick fix to experienced distress. That is not my view of therapy. Self-growth and healing should not be put on a timeline. As someone who functions relationally, I place a huge emphasis on the continuity and consistency that comes with a long-term therapeutic relationship. Over time, we’ll build a deeper relationship, one that allows trust, heaviness, humor, ease, vulnerability, and flexibility to all exist in the same space. If you’re looking for a surface-leveled quick fix to what you’re experiencing, and don’t necessarily have a desire to go deeper than that, then we are not a good fit for each other- and that is okay! Because of the sensitive nature of what is discussed and uncovered, I believe that depth is necessary to growth, and depth can’t truly be accomplished in a short time span.

Although I am a believer that we could all immensely benefit from being in therapy long-term, my hope is not for you to be in therapy forever! Gradually, and with committed work, my goal is to empower you to experience the world without being in therapy. Therapy can take months to years. There’s no right or wrong “amount of time” to be in therapy. It’s somewhat dependent on what you’re working on, how deep you’d like to go, and what the function of therapy will serve in your life.

Therapy is deeply relational, meaning that the relationship between the client and the relationship is a direct correlation to how successful therapy is. As with every relationship in our lives, fit, compatibility, values, and “vibe,” are of utmost importance to the flow and longevity of the relationship. Thus, I believe that therapist-client fit is crucial to treatment. Think of it like dating. Sometimes you have to go on a couple, or a lot of not so great dates, before finding someone you’d like to spend more time with. Similarly, you want to feel like your therapist gets you, and is committed to you and your process. I may not be a good fit for you, and you may not be a good fit for me, and that is okay, as it is important to me that we both feel good about working together.

When looking for a therapist, first consider what it is you are wanting to work on. Is it relationships, anxiety, trauma, grief, identity? Once you determine that, ask yourself- do I prefer a therapist of a specific ethnic or racial background, specific religious background, specific gender, or specific sexual orientation? If you want to take it a step further, ask yourself what modality you want your therapist to work with- do you want someone who is behaviorally oriented, someone more psychodynamically inclined, someone who is specialized in a specific technique? These are all important questions to help generate who the ideal therapist is for you.